Does a doula replace my partner?
We are often asked if “My partner will feel left out?” Many think that a doula takes over the role of the partner. We understand that most partners know you better than we ever will and they bring that intimate knowledge to birth to support you in their own familiar style. Even if they aren’t sure exactly how to support you during labor they know your fears, preferences and desires. We view labor and birth as an opportunity to deepen your relationship and will do everything possible to make that happen. We will work with your partner by encouraging them, offering guidance and suggestions when needed, reminding them to practice self care, and more. We can’t count the times that partners who reluctantly agreed to adding a doula to the birth team declares that they will have a doula for every birth!
Are doulas only for those not planning an epidural?
Nope! While you may need less physical support if you get an epidural there are emotional and informational ways your doula can support you. Your doula will still do things like massage and position changes to ensure that your labor continues to progress efficiently. They will also support you in the early phases of your labor and then help you choose the best time to get your epidural.
Can a doula help if I am having a cesarean?
A doula can absolutely add value for a Cesarean birth! Many local hospitals will allow your partner and your doula into the operating room. In the event that your doula is unable to be present in the operating room she will meet you upon arrival at the hospital and be waiting for you in your room after baby is born. She will assist you with baby feeding, self care and help advocate your preferences with staff.
If I’m birthing in a hospital I will have a nurse. Why would I need a doula?
Labor nurses are trained to provide medically sound, knowledge based and extremely competent care in all possible scenarios of birth. They manage medications, physician orders, obstetrical complications as well as any additional healthcare concerns that a pregnant woman may be experiencing. In contrast, the role of the doula is to be 100% focused on the physical and emotional well being of the woman (and her partner) in labor. Our doulas do not work for the hospital or your doctor/midwife, they work exclusively for you. They are comfortable advocating your preferences and ensuring that you have all of the information to make any needed decisions. While both roles are very important, they are very different.
